Looking For Romance Where It Can’t Be Found
I’m sure most of us have dabbled on websites that promise love, marriage, and all the things. In my opinion, online dating sites are the biggest racket since Pop Rocks.
Here’s why:
We bought Pop Rocks. They exploded in our mouths, and we laughed.
Online dating sites get us to subscribe (buy). They promise everything from a one-night stand to riding into the sunset with our forever love. After buying the fairy tale a few times, most of us find other frivolous things to subscribe to. These sites make money from die-hard fans who believe in Happily Ever After. 💓💓💓💓💓
Here are a couple of issues I have with online romance.
No one is honest. How can we be with someone we met through a profile?
Most people are done after 3 texts. If I’m not willing to “meet up” or “hang out” on day 2, the connection is over.
The Bible says we are led into sin by three things:
- The Lust of the Eyes. “Gurl. He’s so fine. Did you see his chest, his tats, his beard, his eyes, etc”.?
- The Lust of the Flesh. I want, need, and have to have this man. We get the ball rolling. We tell him all our hopes and dreams in a 20-minute phone call or text. We change our status before the first date.
- The Pride of Life. “I’ve found the loovvee.” Less than 3 months later, we have given our bodies and our money.
Here’s my question. If a new job has us on 30-90 days’ probation. WHY are we not putting online romances on probation? If I have to have a credit check to move, WHY?
Is he/she living with me in 2 weeks? And finally, WHY are we doing this over and over?
The website may change, but the results remain the same: broken dreams and disappointment.
Romance is built over time and shared experiences.
It isn’t a quick fix.
Then we get online and bash everyone on every site.
You and I are the common factor in these fake and false interactions.
Here’s my suggestion.
For the rest of May, we find ways each day to fall for the incredible women we are. Let’s not look for validation or feelings of worthiness from others or from online sources.
Ask ourselves this: Who is this woman that I am asking someone to “fall for”?
