Memories hold power.
Some remind us of joyful weekends with friends or dancing at a favorite concert. Others, though, bring back pain and trauma. Personally, I’ll take the good ones any day! But if you’re finding it hard to stay grounded when difficult memories resurface—keep reading, sis.
These tools can help you navigate your own healing, and even support others through theirs.
How about that for a sisterhood?
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When you can identify what triggers you, managing those overwhelming thoughts becomes a little easier.
💡 Identify your triggers.
Start by identifying what sets off your anxiety, PTSD flashbacks, etc. For me, my anxiety was tied to nighttime. My attack happened at night, so just being outside after dark used to send my body into panic mode. Being outside after dark became a trigger. Through therapy and consistent grounding techniques, that fear no longer has power over me. Nighttime no longer controls me. Nighttime is just nighttime now. You can get there, too.
🧘 Ground yourself.
Find what soothes you—whether it’s music, meditation, affirmations, or a combination. I use all three. Creating my own affirmations adds a personal touch that feels empowering. One that really helped me: “You are safe. You are strong. You are capable of anything.”
Repeat that to yourself. Say it out loud. Let it root you.
🧠 Re-frame your mindset.
Instead of spiraling with questions like, “Why did this happen to me?” or “Why am I like this?”, try shifting your perspective. Tell yourself, “I’ve overcome so much and I’m still standing,” or “I am brave, resilient, and ready to face anything that comes my way.”
These affirmations aren’t just words. They are reminders of your strength.
🔁 Rinse and repeat.
Once you know your triggers, you’re better equipped to recognize when they’re creeping in. With grounding tools and a reframed mindset, those overwhelming moments become more manageable.
Music is one of my biggest supports. I listen closely to the lyrics, repeat them to myself, or sing them out loud. It keeps me present, helping me quiet the noise in my mind and stay rooted in the moment instead of spiraling.
What works for you? Have you tried music or meditation? Drop a comment—I’d love to hear what helps you feel grounded.
